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How to be yourself

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How to be yourself

We have previously talked about how to be successful in life and it proved to be one of the most useful blogs for many people looking for ways to be successful. We made it quite evident in that blog that there is no certain pattern towards success, yet it can be attained if several factors are taken care of. Out of those several factors is learning how to be yourself.

Now, you may be wondering, what is the importance of being yourself? Allow me to answer that question before we begin with the discussion of the main topic. When someone says “be yourself”, they often refer to the uniqueness that every individual possesses. Consider it as a trait you had since birth and nobody can take it away from you. Also, this certain uniqueness is one of the greatest qualities found in successful people. So, if you’re thinking that your uniqueness can somehow lead you toward being successful, then you are certainly right. There seems to be no doubt in that.

However, it is not easy being yourself. Do you want to know why? The answer is quite simple. It is in human nature that we always adore the people who are successful and have achieved big things in life. Well, there seems nothing wrong with it, right? It is alright to admire someone who has struggled their way to the top and have achieved something big in life. The thing we need to look out for is copying them. I wouldn’t say a lot of people, but almost everyone tends to copy the successful people they have been influenced by. We tend to copy their habits, their success pattern, everything there is which can be copied. This is completely wrong, no debate.

All of us need to clearly understand that success doesn’t come by copying someone’s habits or their pattern of work. We all are molded to be unique. We all have our own strengths and weaknesses. If someone is really good at working really hard and accomplishing their every task within the given deadline. There can be someone out there who is unable to meet their deadlines, but they still manage everything smoothly. You need to look into yourself and try to figure out what you’re good at. I’m assuming that by this time, you have already realized your strengths and weaknesses, but if you still haven’t figured them out, now is the time to do it.

Realize what you are capable of and improvise that. Work on that strength of yours to be a much better version of yourself. This is going to be helpful only for you, nobody else. If you won’t be copying somebody else, there are far more chances of success because you will come up with your plans and strategies to be successful which haven’t been implemented before. Above all, you will make new mistakes from which you can learn a lot about the future. Following the pattern of somebody else might lead you into a bottomless pit if you are unable to find a feasible solution. Moving on with the discussion, let’s talk about how one can become their actual self.

Get in touch with your Inner Child

This may seem either a little humorous or immature at this point since we are talking about success, not playtime. Getting in touch with your inner child is as important as meditation to release stress from your mind. Why you may ask? The inner child in every person has a lot more creativity than they usually do in their adulthood. Their inner child is willing to try out new, creative yet silly things to achieve the goals in their lives. It is not any farther from the truth that you do need to try out one of the weirdest things ever just for the sake of being successful. The things which seem stupid or dumb at the beginning are actually one of the main ingredients behind your success. You need to trust yourself, be yourself and work for yourself. Why? Because you want to be successful for yourself only, nobody else.

You might have even heard the quote that goes like “When people started calling you insane, just know that you are going in the right direction”. This clearly means that those strategies and planning that seems funny or stupid to others, might work out just fine for you. Always remember, you don’t have to worry about what other people will think. If something is working out just fine for you, keep on doing it for the sake of being successful. You are not answerable to anyone. Try out different things, experiment a little. You should not be afraid of failure as well.

The problem I have seen with many people is that failure works as a motivation drainer for them. If they have many hopes and ambitions about something which will work just fine, they will lose all of their hope at once if the plan doesn’t work instantly. I recommend using failure as a learning process. I know, many people must have told you that we all learn from failures, but that is not the only thing I’m emphasizing on. Learning from failures, adopting the newly learned things and implementing them to avoid failing again in the future is the correct way to go. You need to learn how to avoid repeating those mistakes in the future. It will not only save you time but also keep you motivated in the long run. If you want to look at failure as a motivating factor, try to understand this. In order to be successful, we need experience. To gain experience, we can either win or fail, that varies. If you fail, that is a bad experience, but it is still counted as the experience you just gained. Use that experience, sum it up and march towards success fiercely.

Your Time is Limited, so don’t Waste in Living Someone Else’s Life

I know, we have just talked about this factor a couple of paragraphs above. However, I do want you to focus on being unique at all times. You need to understand that there is a fine thin line between being “Inspired” and “Copying” someone. Don’t get it twisted like other people. When you are inspired by someone, you tend to admire the person and their work in general. This sparks the motivation within yourself to achieve something in life too, maybe just like them. When I saw “maybe just like them”, this is where most of the people get confused.

Being just like the person who inspired you means being as consistent as they are, being as motivated and hyped up about something as they are. It does not at all mean to do exactly what your role model is doing. If they are consuming junk food in large quantity, ruining their health over financial success. You are not supposed to follow the exact same pattern. Seek only inspiration, do the rest on your own. Come up with something different to make success inevitable.

Follow your Own Rule

Come up with your own set of rules. Cut off anything which is either wasting your time or draining your energy. You do not need that type of negativity in your life. It is bad for you and your success. Furthermore, the set of rules needs to have everything that makes you progress a little more towards your goal each day. It may require you to change your routine a little bit and organize everything at once. The change in your routine may require you to add a few activities that will only help you become better. You can also prohibit any factor which is serving as a hurdle in your road to success. For instance, cut down any extra expenses you have. Save up, you need to have funds stored in your hour of need. You can even invest your saved up investment to create multiple sources of income to have financial stability. Because let’s face it, we all encounter crisis in our lives, they tend to make us depressed and a victim of severe anxiety. All of it can be easily avoided if you are prepared to face the storm that wipes out half of your hard work. The storm that puts you through difficult times to pass.

Beauty Begins the Moment you decide to be yourself

Once again, the factor of being unique. It is as important as any other foundation step of the process of success. Consider it as the essence of success if you are having a hard time digesting this fact. In other words, you can’t attain success without being yourself in the first place. It is the first building block you put to start working on the plan afterward. You simply cannot skip this step at all. If you are going to copy somebody else, you might achieve temporary success. The chances are quite minimum, but even if you do achieve temporary success, it will fade away in a single snap.

Just be yourself, there is no one Better

The reason behind emphasizing on being yourself so much is that you all need to realize that there is no one better out there. Whatever you are doing to achieve something, you are doing it in a certain unique way and nobody else can do it any better than you are doing. Don’t worry if they are too good at something or if they are a few steps ahead of you in terms of success. You do not need anything to compare to. This is not a competition. It is your own journey and only you can handle it the best. There isn’t much left to say except, believe in yourself and always be yourself. You will achieve what you have once dreamed about, don’t worry.

Never Dull your Shine for Somebody Else

Do you know that you are a star that shines really bright when it is close to success? I can bet nobody has told you this before. You are a star that is destined to be an epitome of success. There is no exception and there is no denying in that either. Now, you may encounter some people in your life who will try to pull you down. This act may be a result of jealousy or any other factor. As a matter of fact, it is quite impossible to tell why people drag each other down instead of letting them grow and become big. There is no solid reasoning behind it except jealousy.

However, you should not let this negative act ever dull your shine. You need to keep shining like you always have been shining before. Despite all the negativity and criticism along the way, you don’t need to stop or dull your shine. You are likely to encounter many negative people, but it is up to you how you are going to deal with them. How less vulnerable you will become to their criticism and taunts. As you will learn gradually, you will continue to shine brightly. Soon, you will attain success.

To conclude the whole scenario, just keep a few things in mind. You can’t copy someone to become successful. You can only seek inspiration from them. There is a major difference between being inspired and copying somebody. Copying someone will either make you fail terribly or give you temporary success before you lose again and all of the hope goes away for good. So, go after being unique. Develop your own blueprint, work on that plan of yours. Implement any silly or stupid idea that you have. Don’t worry about what others think, it should not affect you since it is not their concern? Take notes, success for you is inevitable. You are destined to achieve it and no one can ever stop you from it. Sure, there may be temporary hurdles along the way which might slow you down or take you a few steps backward, but you can keep pushing hard and keep moving forward.

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How to be Happy

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How to be Happy

Happiness. What does this term mean to you? Is it just a feeling or emotion you can achieve after doing something in particular? Or is it something which can’t be expressed through words, but can only be felt? It can be tough to figure out what does happiness means to every individual, but there is at least one thing in common. We all want to be happy. We all want happiness in our lives and figuring out the key to happiness can be really hard at times. Some people are able to stay happy just because they have a loving family and they live free from stress and everything. There may be some people who are struggling to find happiness through money, success and finding the love of their life. Since you are most likely to start a family after meeting the love of your life, so having a loving family and meeting the love of your life are entirely two different things.

Here, we will talk about the possible ways of becoming happier and also the myths we know about becoming happy in our lives. By the end of this informative blog post, all of the misunderstandings and conceptions will be cleared.

There can certainly be multiple ways to be happy. There isn’t any specific path that you have to follow to achieve happiness in your life. The reason behind stating this is the fact that everyone finds happiness in different things. You can’t ask everyone to meditate and keep their mind clear to keep themselves happy and healthy. Neither can you go out there and tell everyone to get a good paying job, get a big house and be rich and happy at the same time. Things don’t work like that, as mentioned earlier in this post.

Key to Happiness

Why do people’s opinions differ when it comes to defining happiness? Since birth, we have been taught to think about everything in three different ways. The first way is willing to want something. We have been told that if you want something, you need to work hard for it. Work hard enough for it to achieve it and you will be happy. It is usually the materialistic object such as wanting to buy a bigger Television, the latest Smartphone or merely a promotion in your office. If you think about any major purchase you have made in the past, you have done it because you wanted it. Fulfilling that want led to you becoming happy about it. When you’re done making that major purchase and feeling temporarily happy, you’re now back at your original level of emotions with less amount of money. Now you’re on the hunt again to find something that will make you happy again, but for a very limited amount of time. That is one of the many ways to be happy, but it is a fact that fulfilling your want will guarantee your happiness. It won’t work that way.

The second way we react to everything is by rejecting. For instance, waking up in the morning and saying “It is so cold, I don’t want to leave my bed!” or we reject other people as well by saying they are awkward, not funny or cool to hang out with. At times, we even reject ourselves by saying that we are not physically fit or appealing to others. We need to change things in our lives and all. It is quite safe to say that this is not a source of happiness either. It is filled with rejection and rejection often leads to negativity.

The third way we react to things is by zoning out. We react this way when we are assigned a completely boring task. Those boring tasks can be waiting at the Doctor’s clinic for your appointment or commuting to work. In such situations, we put a sort of black and white filter in front of our eyes and everything starts to become hazy. We lose ourselves either back in the past or in some deep thoughts which could be of anything. Needless to say, this is not the way to find true happiness either. These three ways, in particular, are the ones almost 99% of the people react to everything throughout their everyday routine. Now, it becomes a lot easier to understand why most of us tend to remain unhappy at all times. It is all due to the three ways we react to almost everything in our life for almost every single day of the week.

The objective here should not only be to finding ways to be happy or the key to happiness. We should rather focus on finding true happiness which is inner happiness. It can be a really tricky question when someone would ask how to find that inner happiness but trust me, it is not that difficult at all. After we have discussed the three unhealthy ways of reacting to everything, we come down to the hidden one, the fourth reaction. The fourth reaction is Mindfulness and it appears to us like once in a blue moon! Mindfulness is the complete opposite of zoning out and we react in this way when we experience something for the first time. For instance, when one of you first visited the Grand Canyon or went to Disneyland. That feeling when you had, it was mindfulness. You were completely into that feeling. You were hyper-aware of everything which was right in front of you. It wasn’t your “Want” or your “Rejection” or “Zoning Out”. Do you know what does that equal to? Happiness. That is where the way of finding true happiness. You have actually found figured out the way of finding happiness within yourself.

This statement may sound slightly contradictory to you, but the only way to become more mindful is through meditation. Why is this important? Mindfulness leads to happiness, as explained above. This is a true way of finding happiness within yourself. There may be few people out there who are not at all willing to meditate in the first place. They find it pointless to sit around and do nothing for ten or twenty minutes. I understand, it can be difficult to understand the true essence of meditation, but when you understand the importance, it all starts to make sense. There are over hundreds of thousands of scientifically proven evidence backing up the claims that meditation is the only way to becoming more mindful. The more mindful you are, the happier you can be. After all, your objective is only about finding happiness within yourself.

If you have been spending days, weeks and even months searching for the answer of the most historic question “How to be Happy?” then, you may look no further. I can guarantee you that this is the most genuine way of becoming happier. Happiness equals to mindfulness. The only way to achieve mindfulness is through meditation only. You need to let this sink in, conduct a little research and study on this particular topic. Learn the importance of meditation, how you can meditate and why is meditating healthy for you. The number of benefits it has to offer is most likely to shock every single person who didn’t believe in meditation before. Start to search, read, learn and understand. It will turn out to be really beneficial for you just like this blog post. You need to look after yourself, do it for the sake of yourself.

Before concluding, I would like to state that even though you have had a very depressive phase in your life. Or if you have encountered an incident which was terrifying enough to snatch away the charm of happiness from your life. Always remember that it is never too late to start over, never too late to bounce back. Regardless of how devastating something may have been for you. You can always break yourself out from that. You can always improve your condition, after a while. Initially, you may feel like as if the whole world has ended for you if your relationship had ended. You may also experience severe depression among the demise of a beloved one, but let me tell you. Everything is a part of life. This is how everyone’s life is meant to be. If there are no problems or sadness or depression, there won’t be any motivation to strive for happiness in life. Everything would seem so perfect, but due to no change in the emotions, life would feel meaningless to us. It is best recommended to let the pain flow, embrace the change and charge yourself forward. Surely it is going to be a slightly rough patch for you, but everything will be totally worth it in the end. This is the point of struggling and going through hardship only for the sake of your own happiness. It won’t put an impact on anybody else, but your life. You will be thankful to yourself for doing it, for putting yourself through the struggle.

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How to be successful in life?

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How to be successful in life

How to be successful in life? One of the most anticipated questions in the world. Almost everyone is out there, searching for the answer. Yet, no one is actually able to find the correct answer. Do you know why? The reason is obvious. The term success has a different meaning for every single individual out there. Some people consider success as having financial freedom with a big old mansion and a fleet of cars so they don’t have to drive the same car over and over again. On the other hand, some might measure success by their peace of mind, living in a small house with an average family. Like I said it earlier, success is different for everyone, so there is no clear short cut to becoming successful in life. However, there is a general blueprint which can be followed to achieve success despite its nature or type.

First of all, let’s start by listing down the things which are used to measure the success in life for you. Does your success in life is measured by materialistic things? If yes, you might have to think differently and initially start working on continually improving your financial conditions until you attain your project success in life. However, if you measure success by your peace of mind, then you need to start looking after yourself more often. You can start off by researching new ways of meditating. Also, you can learn more about the peace of mind and how it helps in curing many problems in the body. All of it can lead up to the peace of mind that you are looking for. In other words, you can simply be successful in life by following your desired path.

As I mentioned earlier, there is certainly no possible direct path to success. No short cuts, no long routes or anything. You have to make your own way depending on how you want your success to be. If someone out there has achieved success by following a certain method or pattern, there are merely any chances that it will work out the same for you. You might fail instantly and give up all of your hope to become successful at all. Take the wisest step and carve your way to success. You know what you want and only you can figure out how you can get it. Nobody else will be able to tell how you can achieve success. Only you know it. Your way to success might sound ridiculous to some people and some might even call it impossible, but it is your journey, your dream. You know you will be able to do it no matter what anybody else says.

Just like finding out different ways to attain success, there are many people out there who believe that there is a secret of success. Exactly like the secret ingredient in your Grandma’s soup which makes it so delicious, yet no one is ever able to make it taste the same without the secret ingredient. However, people who believe in such a concept are also wrong on many levels. There is no such thing as a secret of success which can guarantee you success. Every mentor who will train you or any successful person from whom you seek inspiration, you will only find one thing common in them; Consistency.

If you are among those people who really believe that there is a secret ingredient behind success, then consider that ingredient to be consistency. Any person who is consistent in doing something is more likely to be successful at it than anybody else doing the same thing. Start working on your self-proclaimed secret of success and become more consistent. Maybe that will help you out in changing things for yourself and becoming successful. Never be afraid of trying out new things. You never really know what will work for you and what won’t. If you fail multiple times, count that as your experience which you are gaining to become successful. Be optimistic and look at things from a different perspective. It will change a lot of things instantly and will help out in the long run as well.

After you’ve followed these steps, what is the next thing you need to do? Well, if you want to be successful, you got to have goals in your life which you are willing to achieve, right? Everybody has goals, aims, and ambitions. Take your time, figure out what your goals and aims are and then, patiently start to focus on your goals. Make up a clear picture in your mind which will help you develop an action plan. That action plan will be the ultimate key to your success. Focus on your goals, work on them and crush your goals into pieces by achieving them right away. This is how you win at life.

If you have figured out your goals in life, but you are having trouble figuring out where to start. It is time for you to sit back, relax and be calm for a moment. Put everything aside and start developing an action plan to attain success. Ultimately, the action plan is the first step you take before you strive for success. Also, it is mandatory to move forward, so start working on the action plan and focus on your goals. Look for motivation in the plan itself. You will go one step at a time, but success will be ensured.

Since you have followed all of the above-mentioned steps, it is time to get rid of distractions in your life. Before we begin, I would like to address the fact that everything comes with a price tag. In order to attain success, you need to sacrifice something. By sacrifice, I’m referring to get rid of distractions in your life, all sorts of distractions. It can either be any activity which is stopping you from working relentlessly on your success. It can also be a toxic relationship draining all of your positive energy which is required for you to become successful. Get rid of distractions, focus on what you want to achieve. Don’t worry about what others would think or say. You need to be a little selfish to be successful. You need to look after your own interest and see what works best for you.

As we have discussed earlier that success is different for everyone. We also mentioned that your method of achieving success may sound ridiculous to others and all. Since your success is going to be unique, you need to use your imagination now. For what, you may ask? You need to use it to be more creative and look for more efficient ways of becoming successful. Is there something efficient you can do to progress at a slightly faster pace? Use your imagination, think!

You are more likely to find a creative way than becoming successful by copying somebody. If you look at people around you, you will see one negative trait in almost everybody. If there is someone with a unique idea who had put all the time and effort required to become successful. Others will try and start copying the exact same thing with just slight alterations. They will think it is the same method for success for them as well. In your case, use your imagination and find a unique way of achieving your success. It will last longer and nobody else except you will know it better.

It is time to follow the last step. Change your thoughts change your life. Your thoughts, your mentality or your thinking plays a major role in your success. It may not be obvious to some people, but it really does. If you have a negative mindset, you are more likely to think about the negative aspect of everything you choose to do. This will automatically reduce your chances of becoming successful even if there are any. Change your thoughts change your life easily. Your little effort will make a much bigger impact on your life. Also, that impact will be impeccable and irreversible. A lot of things in your life will be affected due to it and your life, in general, will turn out to be much better than before.

As I conclude this article, I would like to state that if you decide to change your thoughts change your life, you will experience an overall positive change in your life. That change is necessary for everyone. It is in human’s nature to look at the negative aspects first, before jumping towards the positive side of any situation. This is not only toxic but really dangerous. This kills the motivation, drains the energy and also, distracts you from your goals. Put in the effort and don’t let this happen to you. Just be consistent and follow these steps, success will soon come knocking right at your front door. Besides, anybody can be successful, even you, just be unique and don’t consider copying anybody.

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